Things are getting serious. You’re thinking about proposing and they’re thinking you should have already. The engagement elephant is ALWAYS in the room.
We get it, we’ve been there.
Here’s how to navigate this minefield and come out on the other end alive.
1. You cannot (and should not) force the engagement; it has to be the right time for both of you.
Have those conversations, let each other know how you’re feeling, and then let it go. Be candid with your thoughts and expectations, but don’t add pressure to a situation where emotions are already running high. Learn where your significant other stands and be respectful of it. When we first started talking about marriage, the conversations were pretty relaxed; but the longer we were together, the more these conversations turned into arguments. Be 100% honest with each other so you both know where the other stands. If you’ve always dreamt of getting married, share those feelings with your significant other; and if you’re not quite ready for marriage yet, share those feelings too! Then try to just let things play out.
2. Learn to listen. It’ll really help in pulling off the perfect proposal.
Communication is key. Sometimes, it’s the overt statements and sometimes, it’s the things said in passing that can clue you in as to where your partner stands, what they like and don’t like, and things they have always imagined about their proposal day. Don’t try to decode every little thing, but listen to each other: your proposal experience (and your relationship) will be better for it.
For more insight and tips on pulling off the perfect proposal, check out our blog Planning the Proposal: Tips from a Guy who Just Proposed!
3. The ring is important but don't spend outside of your budget (and don’t expect your partner to do so).
Know that your significant other is going to do everything they can to give you the ring of your dreams. There’s a whole lot that goes into the process of picking out the perfect ring. Try to avoid sharing what your dream ring might be without regard for cost. The last thing you want is to set unfair expectations of your partner and risk taking the joy out of picking out a ring for them. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you will be starting your life together. So drop a few hints to help, maybe go ring shopping together once or twice, and then leave it in the hands of your partner!
For everything you need to know about how to pick the perfect diamond, check out our blog Everything You Need to Know When Selecting a Diamond!
4. Trust each other.
Bottom line: if you trust each other, and the rest will follow. The worrying, the stressing, the overthinking - none of it was necessary! The day we got engaged was one of the best days of both of our lives - we were ready and we were at a great place as a couple. We trusted each other to know that we both wanted to spend the rest of our lives together but that the timing had to be right. It was worth the wait!
Daman and Jena are the couple behind Starr Celebrations. Click here to see the video of how Daman proposed to Jena in her favorite bookstore!